In July this year, I married the love of my life in a Hindu wedding ceremony. I want to share with you my experience as my wedding was far from normal.
Keep reading…..it might help you plan for your wedding as well!!!
What made my wedding unique? Well just like in the movies now a days, we decided to have both the Groom’s and the Bride’s ceremonies under one roof! With my husband based in Australia with very few family attending our Fiji wedding, we thought it was the most effective way to get married. This arrangements, however came with its religious restrictions.
1.) Expenses were comparatively less! Only having to hire 1 venue, 1 caterer, 1 decorator etc, reduced our costs by heaps!
2.) All the family are together. It was great having his and my family together. I was not missing out on his ceremonies, and he was not missing out on mine. Heck I even attended his Tilak ceremony, which is otherwise off bounds for the bride.
1.) There are a lot of restrictions when bride and groom are at the same venue. You are not allowed to see/ interact with each other. This I thought was absurd, since we are planning to spend the rest of our lives together!
2.) Families have their own tradition they want to follow. This becomes especially hard when the grooms side and brides side are working together at the same venue.
3.) Ceremonies could take longer than expected as the bride and groom’s ceremonies take place on the same day, and they cannot run simultaneously.
What Do You Need to Pull Off a Combined Wedding?
1.) A practical and willing Pandit.
When we decided to go ahead with the combined arrangement, we had a lot of questions for the Pandit. For most parts he found a solution for our restrictions. He did both the Groom’s pooja as well as mine. his meant working double time for him but he was a gem!.
2.) A venue with 2 separate rooms
The Kobar rooms would have to separate in this case, so ideally you want a venue with 2 rooms. You should not be able to see the groom while the haldi ceremony is happening, so separate entries are recommended.
3.) Supportive Friends and Family
In a Hindu wedding, family is a must. You pretty much have to have uncles, aunties, brother, sister- in – laws, sisters, brother in – law, you name it….to be a part of your ceremonies. Every person in your family has a part to play in the wedding.
They have rituals designed specifically for them. I guess in the olden days everyone wanted to feel included, but in today’s day and age, where families are getting smaller, this was a hard task to do. What to do when you fall short of family? Ask friends to step in!. I am blessed with friends who are just like family, so wherever I fell short of people to do my rituals, my friends stepped in. No jokes, there is a LOT to do to make a wedding happen, and you will need as many people as you can get to help.
4.) Two of Everything!
Even though the ceremonies are held at 1 venue, you will need to organize the particulars needed in the ceremony individually. You cannot “share” the things needed in the ceremony between the Bride and Groom.
Some of the other rules were that both the Bride and Groom couldn’t be on stage getting their ceremonies done at the same time. One would have to exit and another enter. This meant ceremonies took longer.
In the end, I am not advocating any of these rituals. I am simply telling what I had to prepare for in such a combined wedding arrangement. You family or Pandit may do things differently.
I will write another post about more details I learned about a Hindu wedding soon. If you have any specific questions, do shout out. I would love to help. In the meantime, enjoy some picture from the ceremonies:
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